When my blog was re-vamped and re-born circa September 2016 to how it still looks now, I knew that it would be an ongoing development project like no other but I didn’t quite know how it would pan out and what I would gain from it. I just knew that I wanted to share something to someone.
Over a year later, I’m happy to speak about this process and how it has really shaped my entire year…and I couldn’t thank you enough as the reader of this now, whether as a stranger or as a friend. (But ultimately, I hope you stay as a friend.) 🙂
One of the first posts that was really popular during this new age was All The Things Makeup Taught Me (+Story Time) and though unrelated, this is another post following in that same format.
Welcome to another instalment to my unintentional ‘All The Things…’ series to round the year off!
Blogging taught me that I do actually have an opinion
One of the solid memories that I have from high school is my RE/PSE (Religious Studies/Personal Social Education) teacher having a problem with me not having much of a(n) (verbal) opinion on issues such as abortion, euthanasia, politics etc. I was a very quiet individual at the time (I am nonetheless still an introvert now but definitely not as quiet 😉). The thing is, it’s so hard to have such a strong opinion on such a strong topic at such a young age.
Following on with my introvert nature, I remember the boy I sat next to force-held my hand up to answer a question (because obviously, why not pick on the quiet girl) and I remember feeling so embarrassed due to my lack of answer. The teacher told him off but I still felt nonetheless intimidated. Part of me also felt a bit alienated because in some way, you are forced to have a certain opinion to fit the mould of a good, healthy student who is going to be well accepted in society. At least, I think this is why I didn’t give in to expressing any opinion that I had no keen interest in, or knowledge, to truly discuss the topic. I didn’t want to be a mould.
Some years on and through a lot of blogging experience, I’ve come to know that I actually do have a lot of opinions. I know that sounds quite strange because of course everyone has an opinion – but to express it by my own accord is so different, freeing and comfortable. It’s from a place of knowledge, experience and interest. That’s when I know it’s from the heart, so no – I don’t feel bad for having a lack of answer back then…I stayed true to myself and that’s that. It was just a matter of time!
Blogging taught me that social media isn’t that bad…and can be pretty useful
There are generally two sides to social media – you either really love it or you hate it. You love it because you feel invincible in the sense that you are connected to the whole world. There is no denying that social media has and will continue to shape our lives. But it can also spark the spawn of the devil in the name of procrastination, trashy talks (you know the kind on Facebook that has no content?*) and stalkers. (I’m actually not joking about that last part.)
Since blogging a lot more, I’ve also started using Instagram and Twitter hand in hand with it and made a couple of friends along the way. The truth is, the power of social media amazes me everyday. The ability to share the content that you want and spark some discussion…I’m all for it.
I see both Instagram and Twitter as micro-versions of my blog so don’t underestimate it! What’s even more amazing is finding likewise people on these platforms in discussions that YOU have interest in and therefore finding YOUR audience.
*Hence why I seldom go on Facebook now. It sparks no creative content for my mind and eyes to feast over!
Blogging taught me that we relate to each other more than we think!
I started expressing myself more lately – if not in the past year then definitely in the past few months. I started small with my monthly Favourites and Empties post, and then I dived deeper into personal topics like my battle with eczema and psoriasis or my latest ‘Why I Stopped Using Dry Shampoo’ post.
Honestly, I wasn’t expecting such responses for my latter posts but so many of you related, some of you gave solid advice and it was such a breath of fresh air to know I was absolutely not alone in my problems. I even think that by sharing more of my stories and way of dealing, I can help someone in a similar situation out there!
Writing taught me therapy
Sounds cliché but, what is writing if it doesn’t make you feel good? I know that technically, I am typing this but let’s not deny how I am still expressing my thoughts regardless. As I pour these thoughts out, I feel good about myself so as crazy as it sounds, there is a lot of self-love and self-care that I’ve self-taught myself from writing, drafting and editing many times. I am constantly healing myself by expressing concern or sharing love for something.
I’m not sure how I’d be if I still continued to cage my battle with eczema and psoriasis, or in general, if I didn’t talk about my problems. I think in some way I’d be really ill from the inside but I have writing to thank for, for keeping me merry and sane!
Writing doesn’t even have to be serious. I have found that even jotting down a few notes clears my mind as much as decluttering it. A bit like sorting out your trash if you will – because let’s face it: there are constantly things communicating back at us before we have even processed the information. It’s all overwhelming. But writing, even if just casual, sorts that out.
Thank you to all my readers/friends who decided to stick by! Here’s to another year of great content and more to come. WordPress.com actually notified me a few days ago about a 5-year anniversary; but this space of mine has only officially found its way since September 2016, though I have posts that date back to 2014. Still, there is a time gap because I stop-started this blog many times…wiping out posts and starting fresh again. But then I realised that if I kept doing that, I wouldn’t have much of a journey to visually show. Now that I do, I’d like to thank you for being a part of it and participating in the discussions I try to start. 🙂
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